Understanding the ADHD impact on relationships
Do you feel like your "non-ADHD-partner" is constantly nagging and criticizing you? No matter what you do, nothing is ever good enough? Or maybe you feel constantly let down by your "ADHD-partner"? No matter how many times you agree on tasks or contributions to the relationships, your partner rarely seems to follow through? Then ADHD focused couples counseling might be for you.
Couples that are impacted by ADHD often become stuck in a range of difficult dynamics. The partner with ADHD might already struggle with low self-esteem due to prior experiences of being "different" from the neurotypical world around them. This potentially makes them even more sensitive to “not being good enough” in their partners eyes. They often feel they're doing their best to satisfy their partners needs, but are still being nagged, criticised or controlled despite all their efforts. Interestingly, the partner without ADHD often feels equally stressed and on edge. They might feel their partner never follows through on agreements and is just generally unpredictable – they either have to constantly remind them or find other ways to stay on top of situations. In addition, many non-ADHD partners report feelings of loneliness and frustration over being left alone with responsibilities around children, household, finances, etc.
Both partners can feel like walking on eggshells around each other, unable to find productive ways of communicating with each other. They might begin to question whether their relationship issues and differences can be resolved.